Marriage is a funny thing.
Compromise.
Communication.
Balance.
Love.
Highs and Lows.
Companionship.
Stress.
Choices.
Intimacy
Ten years into marriage, I surely am no expert, but I am very entertained by the day-to-day, married-life antics in our home. I thought it would be lighthearted and fun to share with you some disagreements, annoyances, and discussions we have on a daily/weekly basis! I would love to see if we are the only couple that has these go down!
- My husband asks this important question daily to me: “Where is the charger?” I am famous for stealing all 4+ chargers in our home for the phone, iPad, old iPhones that kids use, etc. Having a salon in my home only makes it more of an issue. I lose them all. Not sure where they go….. but he can’t handle it! My favorite is when I am in my studio with a client, and he is going to bed, and I get a text, “Where is my charger?!”
- Agreeing on what to eat for dinner! I am a typical chick, and when asked what we should eat, I simply state, “I don’t care.” But when an option is brought up, I say, “No, that doesn’t sound good.” and we go on and on….
- Agreeing on what to watch on our one TV. Netflix, Hulu, or live TV. World-changing decisions. I like to watch decorating shows and dramas, he likes to watch a documentary on people who live in Alaska on $5/month.
- Along with the TV topic, I binge watch shows late at night and complain about being tired in the morning, and he likes to watch a show or two at night….. So if we are into a show together (once in a great, great moon) he naturally wants me to wait to watch the next episode. But this sister is on a roll and can’t wait. The Hus gets annoyed with my addictive and impatient personality. (opposites attract…)
- Let’s talk bedroom!
- WET TOWELS on the bed! Gross. Hang it up. (He has gotten better; now I have to train the kids. They put their towels on the floor.) Nast!
- Dirty socks on top of the hamper, not in it. Or my favorite: pile of clothes on the chair we never sit on in our bedroom. Ridiculous.
- Blinds closed or open. Closed curtains or open. I like it dark when I sleep, until I physically open the curtains. My Husband likes the sun to wake him and inspire him to get up way too early.
- Fan or no fan. Music or no music. Literally, we are opposite on all of these things!
- Who is going to take the kids to school? Who is going to give the kids a bath? Who is going to get up when they cry or need us in the morning? Who is going to take them to ballet and sit in a waiting room for an hour and a half? Who is going to pack their lunch for school? Every parenting topic is a discussion for us!
- When leaving our home and hopping in our SUV, I always plan on getting a coffee. Sometimes, the Hus disagrees. It is a must. We must detour four blocks for an Americano. Please. Pretty please.
- Remembering to shut the lights off in the rooms in our home. I like to leave lights on when we are gone to make it look like we are home. Not him. I like the thermostat at 69, he likes it at 67. So I do what every mature 30-something woman would do–sneak my way to the wall unit and up the temp!
Any of these ring a bell in your home?
All I can say is that life is better with you, Andy. Thankful to have you as my life partner and sidekick on this ride. Life is real and messy. Life is better together. Life is created to be challenged, pushing us past our own comforts and wants.
In the grand scheme of things, what counts is that Love is not perfect. I choose to love you every day. I choose to let you in to the depths of my heart. I choose to learn what marriage is with the best guy out there—the guy who allows me to fail and be imperfect.
Marriage is designed to have many different seasons, ebbs and flows, making it our biggest accomplishment.
Christy
