As moms, we know that our kids bring us so much joy but let’s be real, there are days when all we want to do is curl up and hide… Days when copious amounts of coffee are needed to for proper functioning. That’s usually where our mom-friends come into the picture to help give us that encouraging word to rally us on. They’re the friends who can relate to all your mama drama. A mom-friend understands the feeling of having a piece of her heart toddling around right outside of her body. The shared bond of motherhood creates an amazing sisterhood which can serve as a great support system for the days when you Just.Can’t.Even.
When I first moved to Rochester, I felt excited, yet nervous, to make some new mom-friends. What if I couldn’t make connections? What if I was destined to be a lonely mom in a city full of women who already had their established friend groups? Despite all my anxious thoughts, I became determined to dive right into the local mom scene. Let’s face it. If my life were a book, this chapter would be entitled, Desperately Seeking Sisterhood.
I’m thankful to say that over time, I began making connections and mom-friends! This would have been so much easier if only there were a friend-making app. You know, like Tinder but strictly for friends seeking friends. Just enter the qualities you’re looking for and list all of your hobbies/interests, and BAM! You find Mrs. Right! Unfortunately since there is no said app, I’ve compiled a list of some great ways a newbie can meet other moms in Rochester. I know what you’re thinking, with the plethora of things we moms do to maintain our families and households, ain’t nobody got time for that! But you can’t make friends if you don’t put yourself out there. Although it may seem like everyone in town already has their group, other people are actually looking for friends too.
- Meet your neighbors. When we first moved into our house, we hosted a housewarming party and invited the neighbors. It was a great way to meet the people around us. And you never know, the woman two houses down may be seeking companionship just as much as you are.
- Join a mom’s group. Search around and find a mom’s group that’s the right fit for you. When we arrived in Rochester, I joined a local MOPS group right away. Although I was initially super intimidated, the group was very welcoming. Twice a month, we came together and listened to amazing speakers, enjoyed fellowship, ate yummy food and more. The best part was the childcare! Yep, that’s right. Kid-free time.
- Volunteer. Places like non-profits, schools or churches are always in need of volunteers. It’s a great way to serve your new community and network. I really enjoy volunteering at my kids’ schools. I get to see them interacting with their friends and peers. It’s also a good way to meet other parents too.
- Join a club or take a class. Parents need extracurricular activities just as much as kiddos. The first summer we lived in Rochester, I joined a running group comprised of other moms. Not only was it a great way to get out of the house alone, it felt great to exercise with an encouraging group of women. Find a club or class that fits with your interests and you may snag a friend along the way!
- Meet people in the places you already frequent. Don’t be afraid to strike up a conversation in the checkout line at a grocery store. Say ‘Hi’ to the mom at the playground. I once met a very dear friend this way. Get creative and keep in mind, wherever kids are, moms are close behind.
No matter where you decide to seek out your new mom-friends, remember to be patient. Cultivating lasting friendships doesn’t happen overnight. I can guarantee that the time and effort will be well worth it. Best wishes on your journey, sweet sister.
