I love being around other people. That’s why when I became a stay-at-home-mom, I knew it would be tough. I loved going to work and interacting with other adults, so leaving that environment to be at home was a challenge. Like most extroverts, I am energized when I am around other people. Being at home all day, with hardly any interaction with adults can be really lonely. Over the past few years, I have learned a few lessons as I try to navigate this world of staying at home while raising little ones as an extroverted mother.
First, I have learned that there will be days when I simply cannot interact with other adults face to face. As much as I want to get out of the house and meet my desire to socialize, realistically this isn’t always possible. The days where I get little interaction are tough, but keeping busy with my “to-do” list is helpful. Staying busy and setting “goals” for the day, helps me when I cannot get out.
Second, I need to get involved in groups and organizations. For me, a huge resource has been my church. I attend a weekly Bible study and a moms group (MOPS.) Both of these allow me to socialize with other moms and learn more about my faith, which is really important. I have found friends in these groups, and that has made being a stay-at-home mom easier.
Third, scheduling play dates is essential for me. I am convinced that playdates are even more vital for moms than they are for the kids. Being intentional about seeing my other friends with kids is so important. It is a time when I can connect with other moms and get my social interaction for the day.
Fourth, I have learned that when I can’t see adults, I can rely on technology. I love FaceTiming with my mom and friends who aren’t close by. It isn’t the same as seeing them in person, but it is a great option when you need conversation with adults.
Lastly, I have learned that it’s worth it. I may not enjoy certain aspects of being a stay-at-home mom, like not interacting with adults, but I wouldn’t trade my situation for the world. It can be especially hard in the winter months, but I cherish the time I get to spend with my girls. They may not be able to fulfill all my needs as an extroverted mother, but I am so glad I am there day in and day out to meet their needs.
